I bought a car, got married, and I’m moving house

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ya guys i toldju i didn’t go missing for nothing

All of this pretty much happened in the space of a year, haha.

(Alhamdulillah, I’m extremely grateful and blessed.)

I’m pleased to announce that this is Note 5 out of 5 of my dormancy.  I intend to come roaring back starting sort-of today because I honestly do miss writing and putting together all the clipart wisdom I try to spout on my blog.

As you may expect with the big news, there will be a pretty dramatic shift in writing – life has changed in a major way for me guys. It’s been wonderful, for sure, but with every big change comes big adjustments (and big challenges, steep learning curves, and general teething issues).

I mentioned a while ago that I broke up with Wally. We intend to get back together starting next year.

I also broke up with my personal finance excel spreadsheet in the middle of this year (and had a six month fling with a new spreadsheet for wedding planning). I intend to start seeing my personal finance spreadsheet again, starting next year. We might have a baby too called Household Finances since I’m married now (and that’s a whole other personal finance animal as you may expect).

I’ll slowly get into the details of things but just to recap where I’d left you: I was a single, 25-26 year old desk job yuppie with no loans, a decent amount of savings, disciplined spending habits, who had a penchant for data and breaking down the basics of personal money management.

Fast forward to today: I’m a married 28 year old (I turned 28 last month guys! it’s not too late to wish me happy birthday heheh), I have a car loan now but only because I obliterated my savings for the wedding (which we planned over only  ~6 months cos we didn’t want to dilly dally). My personal finances have been turned upside down and are still in extreme flux. It’s still in post-wedding recovery mode; there are a couple of pending things to still pay for, some cash deposits which still need to be made and accounted for, and some credit card bills to pay off – a lot of plusses and minuses so I don’t really know where I stand right now in terms of the bottom line. And to top it all of, my husband and I have been actively preparing to move home and we’ve already bought all the major furnishings and appliances and our bedroom curtains should be delivered and installed by the end of this week.

I’M BROKE Y’ALL!!!

But as you can see I have a lot to talk about, a lot to share, and a lot to write about. That should be fun, right?

Some things which I can share for now (and may pique your interest):

  • I got married exactly a month ago. This mutual decision was made very quickly and we only had about 6 months to plan. It was a 4-event close to “standard Bruneian Malay” wedding and we took out zero loans. The wedding was funded with our existing savings and disposable income (monthly gaji) and was split evenly (so we both paid for our share) with no major items sponsored by family so we did pay for at least 90% of the wedding with our own money 🙂 Two of our events were held in external event halls.
  • While we didn’t take out loans, I definitely made full use of my credit card (which technically speaking is a type of loan) and for the very first time ever I let the balance roll over because I couldn’t quite pay it off fully. I intend to clear the balances completely before the end of the year so effectively we should be free of all wedding debt by 2018 (~3 months after the wedding) insyallah.
  • No we didn’t buy or build a house, we are sort-of renting but are furnishing it ourselves. No loans also.
  • I needed to get a car around about July because my trusty pink friend conked out and needed repairs which would set me back perhaps $2000. It had reached a point of diminishing returns because well I was about to get married and needed a more reliable car (especially because my husband’s house is 30 mins from my own, which also extends my journey to work every day). So it finally made perfect sense for me to get my own car; I bought a bigger model which I think – after 4 months of use – is a great investment. Since all of my cash savings were getting channeled to the wedding, I had to get a car loan but I chose a tenor of only 5 years (instead of the maximum 7 years). This obviously increased my monthly payments but it’s still something I can handle and budget for. The temptation is always to spread it out over 7 years so inda luan sakit every month but you guys should know about my aversion to debt by now. A lot has changed in a year but that certainly hasn’t!
  • Despite taking three major hits in a year (but for positive reasons!), my savings has not been wiped out to zero alhamdulillah. This is where my savings structure SERIOUSLY proved to work, I’m so thankful you have no idea hahaha. I did use up wayyy over half of my savings pulang but knowing I still have some locked up is comforting.

Okay I think that’s enough for you to chew on for now. If you want data, I don’t have accurate numbers right now because like I said everything’s still in flux but I hope to centre myself in the next month so I’ll be ready to go again in the new year.

My finance focus for December is to clamp down on all the moving parts and get a good grasp of what my situation is.

The finance focus for next year is to slowly start recovering and rebuilding (sikit-sikit) my personal savings. Also, to re-prioritize and re-organize according to this “new normal” I’ve found myself in, i.e. the addition of Household level budgeting and savings.

I’m still very much the same individual person with the same individual likes, dislikes, wants, needs. The difference now is that I’m now part of a two-person unit, and this means that my responsibilities and my priorities have grown (and should grow) to embrace this change. And while my future financial planning will definitely still have an important “me” tab (for my personal savings, personal future expenditure and financial planning), my priority now will be the “us” tab. While the thought of that can be intimidating, it’s pretty exciting too. Especially because we’ve established that I’m likely in charge of our household finances hahaha (surprise, surprise).

And guys… I was born to be a domestic goddess ok. MOVE OVER MARTHA STEWART! We bought a fridge and I’m friggin’ obsessed with it cuz it’s pretty(!!) and the design of the inside is friggin’ amazing. AND WE DIDN’T PAY FULL PRICE FOR IT because I’m a bargain queen 4 lyf. We own a washing machine now and laundry day isn’t a chore for me (yet) because it’s really fun to “play house” and do adult things like laundry and cleaning up after yourself and owning all your own stuff. We haven’t moved in yet but we have been doing laundry since getting the machine delivered last weekend hahaha. One of the best parts about living abroad was having my own place and it’s been a hot minute since that last happened so I’m an iski squirrel right now.

Anyway. These are the three big, big things Myn’s Desk content will begin to revolve around. I’ll mix it up and probably bounce between writing about all three but I’ll have to first think about where to start. As much as I hate to do the YouTube subscribe! and like! check out the description box and comment down below! spiel but if you’re a reader and would like me to write about one aspect in particular first or have a specific question you’d like me to address/answer – do let me know 🙂

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Note 4 out of 5 on how I’m still dormant

We had a good friendship going on guys so the way I continue to leave you hanging does induce a level of guilt to brew within my little ol’ heart.

I am compelled to give you an update so you don’t abandon me and forsake my desk entirely. Although I do realize it’s been a year — A YEAR — since I was a keyboard-smashing ultrablogger who was churning out three lengthy posts a month on average.

I’m excited though, guys. I’m excited because I am making a comeback, and I’m definitely not just saying that for the sake of it.

I got LOTS to talk about. And I don’t just want to talk about stuff to keep you guys around (whoever you ghostly followers are. I mean I don’t even know if any of you really exist – maybe I’m just delusional). I want to get back into note-making mode because a lot of the things I wanna tawk about are things I want documented and written out properly, to add some method to the madness. It’s good for me, and I have an inkling it’ll be good for you too. (Kali lah ah).

I’ve been busy. Busy busy busy. Work is one thing, but everyone is “always” “busy” with “work” so that’s not what I’m referring to. I’ve been busy with new stuff as I’ve already alluded to in Notes 1 to 3 of how I’m not back to blogging yet.

I gave you a potential list.

Did you figure it out yet? Come on.

 

Well I’ll tell you one thing – more than one item on that list is true.

And one item that is true is…

 

 

I bought a car, yo.

 

 

Whuuuuuut?!?!

After all that “DON’T BE STEWPID AND BUY A CAR JUS COS YOU GOT A JOB AND WANNABE FANSY, is gunna eat up your muneyz real gewd”?!

Yea I bought a car. I’ll tell you abourit next time.

And also… Since Brunei Times shut down so suddenly last year, ALL MY NEWS REEL LINKS ARE BROKEN and a bunch of images I foolishly direct-linked are now ded. THANKS MAN now half my blog is redundant -__-

It’s okay. Let’s not cry over spilled milk.

There will be a new dawn for Myn’s Desk. I’ve missed you (I’m talking to my blog, not you) and I sort of can’t wait to start writing again. And no I’m not coming back as a fashion blogger. I pay a lot of money to stay basic (..uniqlo..) and that hasn’t really changed. Myn’s Closet will have to wait.

So if you’re wondering – yes I will still be writing from a predominantly finance and planning angle. Boring is the new black, haven’t you heard? All in due time!

(But y’know if you have anything to say or ask in the meantime, you could totally still comment. I’ll be cool and reply.)

A word or three

Hey guys 🙂

I’m doing well, in case anyone’s wondering. I obviously have not kept to my word but my reasons are perhaps more than just sheer laziness and a lack of enthusiasm for blogging. In actuality, I’ve accumulated a lot of experience (personal finance, life in general) in my disappearance which I would absolutely love to share on this blog. And I do intend to… But not quite yet.

The reason for this is because I’m going through a significant transitory phase in my life right now. Not trying to be dramatic, it’s just something that I can’t quite share at this moment on such a public space:
I’m resigning from my day job.
I’m preparing to move abroad.
I’m moving jobs.
I’m buying a car.
I’m moving house.
I’m buying a house.
I’m getting married.
I’m starting up my own business.
I’m writing a book.

… Well okay that would be pretty dramatic if it were all true lol.

So no, that’s not all happening.

But at least one of them is happening.

And no matter which one (or which ones) are true, what’s certain is that this transition will be a defining period in my life; it’s been hectic, it’s been kind of crazy, and at times it’s been overwhelming — but in a good way.

It’s quite humbling because everything I’ve ever shared on this space – all the material, notes, life lessons – started off initially as just a hobby/side interest and I hadn’t realized how well it would equip me to deal with this big life change. I suppose that’s always been the intention of myn’s desk; my notes will always be up here to read and share (if you wish to), and I feel like they continue to be just as relevant as when they were first written.

Don’t worry – this isn’t goodbye! This is a “we’ll see, for now” haha.

I’ve definitely been just as active with my personal finance life; the planning and prioritizing and making sure my money stretches as wide as I need it to. But it’s certainly evolved; I’ve broken up with Wally (sadness) but we could get back together in the future. Right now detailed expenses tracking isn’t the priority, and the good thing is that all those months and years spent tracking my expenses allowed me to understand my habits better. I probably still spend roughly the same amount on food and drink every month; maybe even less because I don’t drink coffee every day anymore 😀

So yes, there have been changes, things have evolved… And well like I said, this is a transition towards a much bigger, systemic change. At the risk of being cliched, that’s life amairait and you just have to learn as you go along and make sure to use the tools you pick up along the way to carve out brighter futures.

#cheese

BAH BAI maybe I’ll see you in a bit (maybe not, I’m not sure) but I’ll be back eventually